I was talking with a good friend yesterday about an issue on both our minds: trust.
Our U.S. currency declares "In God We Trust." That seems to be debatable these days.

And if not God, just who is left in your circle of friends, acquaintances, loved ones, public figures...the world, that you trust?
I've talked here of the Inner Circle discussions I've facilitated among senior executives who said that on both a personal and professional basis, the number of people they trust has narrowed over the past several years. I find the same thing repeated among everyone I've talked with on the topic, from the doormen at the apartment building where I live in New York, to taxi drivers, to the cashiers in stores I frequent.
No one seems to trust anyone else. I've traveled to several different continents over the past year and find that trust is eroding everywhere, but it seems to be most dramatic here in the United States. I've decided the reason for the precipitous drop in trust here is that we had a further distance to fall.

By that I mean generations of Americans had grown up trusting in many things. We trusted that if we worked hard, paid our taxes and gave back to our community fellows, we'd have a good life. And that life would be better than our parents had enjoyed. And the chain would continue. It's why so many citizens were willing to risk their lives in their country's service. They wanted to be sure that our Nation remains strong, free, and bountiful. They felt a sense of duty to protect all that.
It's why in so many families, the willingness to serve in the military was passed down from one generation to another. It's why my husband served in the Marines; his Dad served in the Navy before him.
But the chain got broken somewhere along the lines. None of our sons seriously entertained military service. The world has changed. And our willingness to place our trust in one another changed with it.

I remember a wise marriage counselor once telling me that when trust is gone, the marriage is over. And that is true of other partnerships as well. When business partners trust one another, all things seem possible. When board directors of companies trust their fellow directors, and the executives in the company they serve, to do the right thing, they feel empowered as stewards of that organization. When parishioners of a church or members of a temple or other religion have trust that their priest or rabbi or other religious leader has their best interest at heart, their faith is strong.
And politics? When we believe our leaders are acting not in their own self interest, but in the Nation's, we want to follow their vision. If our President announced today that we should ask not what our country can do for us, but what we can do for our country--as JFK did--we would no doubt have a cynical response.
How do we get it back? Can we get it back? Is it at its core a question of leadership? In her remarks at Harvard Business School last Friday, Nancy Koehn talked of the trust that Americans eventually placed in Abraham Lincoln to lead them through the hell of the Civil War. And she talked of the trust that Ernest Shackleton's men had that somehow--against all odds--he would bring them back to their homes alive.
Where are our Lincolns and Shackletons?