I feel saddened when I learn of people who only infrequently communicate with their parents. They get busy with their own work, their own children, their own interests and it gets increasingly difficult for some of them to continue to check in with Mom and Pop.
On the other hand, I have a friend who is a successful businessman and a serious mover and shaker in Washington, DC, who is in his 50's and has always called his mother every night at 11 PM. He could be at a dinner party in Manhattan, or a late night business meeting in San Francisco, or even on a flight to Hong Kong. He calls Mom, in Iowa. I've been there when he made one of those calls; it was at a dinner party that went late. He got up from the table, went to another room where he pulled out his phone and chatted for just a few minutes, then came back and joined the group. He says it's not just for her, it's as much for him. He loves his Mom and he says it keeps him grounded. That, when life gets crazed and everything seems super important and crisis mode steps in, he likes to think that his Mom, in Iowa, is thinking about him and that everything is really going to be OK.
I guess he would say people who fail to stay connected to their families don't talk to their parents enough.
On the other hand, a recent piece in the Huff Post about millennials who bring their parents along to job interviews, gave me pause. According to an Adecco survey cited in the Wall Street Journal, 8 percent of college grads brought their parents along to an interview. Seriously, people?
I've heard of helicopter parenting, but this is too much. Your Mom and Dad are not the people looking for the job. They do not need to be in this conversation. And I'm dismayed that many companies--apparently a host of Wall Street firms among them-- are setting up special programs to familiarize parents with their firm, perhaps in the hope that Mom and Dad --in subsequent conversations with their son or daughter--will convince them on the merits of working there.
If that doesn't make sense to you, call me. We should talk.